It’s fair to say most, if not all of us were taught that love is a feeling, and based on this premise our love for others are mostly conditional. We tend to ‘love’ when things are going well, but any perceived wrong and our love may be withheld or even totally withdrawn. We’ve all at some point exhibited impatience, unkindness, envy, pride, and arrogance to those around us. Worse yet, to those most dear to us, we tally the wrongs they’ve committed against us, thereby building up almost impenetrable walls of un-forgiveness in our lives.
Love is a decision and we have to make that deliberate choice to love. “Paul boils it all down for the believers in Corinth. Religious people often spend their time practicing rituals, projecting dogma, and going through routines that might look like Christianity on the outside but that lack the essential ingredient that brings all of it together—love! It is a loving God who birthed creation and now pursues a broken people in the most spectacular way. That same love must guide believers, so faith doesn’t appear to be meaningless noise.”
By deciding to love, we are deciding to be patient, to be kind, to be humble, to forgive all wrongs committed against us, to endure all things no matter what, and to rejoice in the truth always. When we deliberately decide to love we begin to truly appreciate the heart of God and His tremendous love toward us.
My loved ones, let us devote ourselves to loving one another. Love comes straight from God, and everyone who loves is born of God and truly knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. Because of this, the love of God is a reality among us: God sent His only Son into the world so that we could find true life through Him. This is the embodiment of true love: not that we have loved God first, but that He loved us and sent His unique Son on a special mission to become an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 1 John 4:7-10
Love is patient; love is kind. Love isn’t envious, doesn’t boast, brag, or strut about. There’s no arrogance in love; it’s never rude, crude, or indecent—it’s not self-absorbed. Love isn’t easily upset. Love doesn’t tally wrongs or celebrate injustice; but truth—yes, truth—is love’s delight! Love puts up with anything and everything that comes along; it trusts, hopes, and endures no matter what. Love will never become obsolete. 1Cor 13:4-5